Posted on April 9, 2019
“They remember the pictures your words paint.” Connie Albers, “Parenting Beyond the Rules”
Life is picking up speed as my husband and I begin to race through the pre-teen years with our two daughters. This book set me on track to stay ahead of the game. A lot of the topics Albers discussed in this book are in the beginning stages of development already. I see certain behaviors and feel equipped to peek around the corner in regards to how they may develop. Books like this one are essential to me, as I seek to learn more about myself and God as I parent the two beautiful lives He has entrusted me with.
Albers takes us on a journey with our changing children, teaching us what to look for and how to understand and celebrate the life they are now beginning to live with more independence each passing day. When to let go is a struggle, and the information packed into these pages helped me attain a better perspective on what to let go of and what to hold onto.
I felt encouraged reading this book. I finished it in two days. It was a quick read, I believe, because it’s so applicable to “Raising teens with confidence and joy,” as the sub-title promises. I found myself looking back on my own life as a teen, and being able to pull from those experiences in order to grow as a parent who will need to help her teens through some inevitably hard seasons.
The book is broken up into twelve chapters, with a section in the back full of resources for parents who would like to continue learning and researching. The stories throughout the book help paint an accurate picture of the research and Biblically based advice. I particularly liked the chapter titled, “Monitor Your Mouth.” How easily it is to find myself slipping into an argument with one of my children. I felt convicted and equipped to speak life to my kids.
I highly recommend this book to parents of tweens and teens. I will keep it close by as a reference for the years to come.
“Your child might act as if what you say doesn’t matter, but don’t be fooled. Their confidence will be shaken-or increased-by what you say and how you say it.” Connie Albers, “Parenting Beyond the Rules.”
I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.