The Friend Book

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The fog cast an erie lure of anxiety over the pier. It had enveloped the lighthouse, and I checked my footprints to make sure I hadn’t drifted off the pavement to the glazed-over river. I trekked on, trusting it was still out there beyond the mist. A wispy top-layer of snow revealed one single set of down and back footprints. All alone … I threw my arms up and let started to dance-walk to the new album I couldn’t stop listening to.

My quest to “be me” occasionally feels akin to walking down the pier in thick fog. I lose sight of what I know is there. God always has a way of breaking through the thickness with a shard of light. Many times, that glint of hope comes in the form of a friend.

There has been a book about friendship spinning around in my head for many years. Perhaps it circulates because I have never quite found an author that has addressed my trademark quest to “be friends with everyone.” I believe when God asks me to write about something, He has a lesson for me to learn and a story someone needs to hear. Research and reading unravel answers, but sometimes God uses people to pull it all together.

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Making a new friend, or approaching a new season with an established one, takes a slow walk in humility. John 15:9 instructs us to “remain in His love,” and snap judgements and circles of gossip definitely lie outside of it. Walk in prayerful consideration to stop and think before saying or doing anything that could hurt another soul, especially one that is akin to your friendship; but without disregard for a sweet one you may be squashing before it’s given the opportunity to sprout buds and grow.

imageThat foggy pier walk rekindled a revelation I’d had years back as a young runner. Comparing the trace of my tracks in the snow, one set revealed a wisp on the tail of my heal where I had drug my feet. The other set, after I noticed and corrected the problem, was nice and clean. Dragging feet cause runners overuse injuries from this mark of improper form. In my friendships, I’ve been challenged to peer into the past before before moving forward.

Don’t fear forgiveness …the asking or the receiving of it. You may open the door of relief for someone who needs to unload the burden of imperfections that they carry. We all carry them. “We all fall short.” (Romans 3:23) So, have mercy.

I picked up a cross necklace a few years back when I needed a constant visual reminder Jesus was with me no matter how tight the drama in my life was wound. The first time I put it on, I noticed an inscription on the back. “Be the change.” As a new coach implementing lots of changes, I took it as a sign I was running in pace with God’s plan. Really, it just meant to be me through the change.

Kindness can mean everything to someone living in a moment in which everything is crumbling. When my kids come to me annoyed with a classmate, the sting of past experience flares to the surface.

“There’s always something good you can find about a person,” I teach them, “Find it, and focus on that.”

Focus on the light beyond the fog.

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Friends defy definition. Church friends, Bible study friends, high school and college friends, teammates, family, bloggers, work peers, neighbors and far away friends, Facebook friends, and authors who write words that resonate so much with our hearts that they feel like friends …and church that can feel like home even though it’s several states away from our actual homes.

I believe friends populate our lives because we were never created to walk out life’s lesson alone. We are the church. Set here to love the people in our lives. Jesus is the perfect definition of friendship. And because of Him we can go to our Great God in times of need (Hebrews 4:16). We weren’t meant to be alone. We can reach out to friends He’s placed in our lives to allow their light alongside ours to pierce through the fog.

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Throwback Update:

Wow! Reading this reminded me how afraid I was to tell my story …worried that no one would be able to relate. The original post was the framework for a review of “The Gift of Friendship,” by Dawn Camp. I highly recommend it. Her words and the collective stories contributed to it came alongside me when I need to know that I was not alone.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned while writing my own book on friendship, “Friends with Everyone,” is to let go of fear and trust God’s timing and purpose for my story. Of course someone needs to read it. You know what?! I needed to read it! We are all placed in each others lives, purposefully, by a God who isn’t in the business of coincidence. Stay tuned for my next release …”Surface.”

Click here for a copy of “The Gift of Friendship,” by Dawn Camp.

Click here to grab your copy of Friends with Everyone …and Happy Reading!!!

Megs

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God has poured His love into my life through His Son, and hopefully through this blog, I can share some of that love with you. I'm a Christian, wife, stay-at-home-mom, writer, runner...I love the water....and I live to laugh..LOUD. Happy reading, friends! "Be joyful always." 1Thes. 5:16

23 thoughts on “The Friend Book

  1. Friends has always been a tough issue with me yet one of my favorite thing to do is sit down with friends over some great conversation. I think I learned young that they come and go and so I don’t get too upset about it. At the same time, because of it, I maybe don’t work quite so hard at maintaining connection, for fear of losing it. Thank you for sharing with us at Sitting Among Friends on Wednesdays.

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    1. Thank you so much for visiting! I’ve always wanted to be “friends with everyone,” and I think that’s possible. If I let go of my qualifications of friendship, God has the ability to make the impossible possible. If I peer through His perspective, I’m able to see more than through the full scope of my own vision. Compassion for each other makes friendship compatible.
      Happy Monday!!!
      Megs

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  2. Such a beautiful post, Meg! I’m so thankful for the many friends God has blessed me with, especially those on the other side of my computer screen whom I’ve never met face to face.
    Blessings to you today!

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  3. Friends defy definition…love that. I’ve met so many women through blogging that I’ve never sat beside or talked to in real life, but they’ve become like sisters. And then there’s those that live in town and my heart hurts because we aren’t the kind of close I want. Friendship is tricky and beautiful. Thanks for the great book review!

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  4. this is such a thoughtful post on friendship and an encouragement to read this book,too. I’ve had some painful friendship issues these past 10 years..losing a dear friend due to misunderstanding and her not wanting to confront hard issues..but God has graced me with new and unexpected friendships that are deep and nourishing in that we share our mutual love of God..what blessings you share here..I want to cherish these new friendships and women in my life! Visiting today from #TestimonyTuesday

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    1. Thank you for visiting from #TestimonyTuesday! I’m sorry about the friend you lost… I’ve been there, too. Here’s to hope in new friendships and healing and restoration of what we fear might be forever lost.
      Happy Tuesday!!!
      Megs

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  5. What a beautiful post Meg! I definitely need to read this book. Relationships are so very interesting to me. Due to my slightly introverted nature, in the past I would tend to stick to a few loyal friends and avoid meeting new people like the plague. My husband on the other hand is very extroverted and LOVES people, lots of people. It is amazing to me how God put me with him. He has taught me to be more comfortable around people and the real value of friendships. I still prefer to be around a smaller group, but I have also enjoyed meeting lots of new people and making new friendships! I’m so grateful God didn’t leave me to myself and my idea of what friendship should look like! We serve a relational God who longs for us to connect with Him and others. Thanks for sharing this today.

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  6. “Friends defy definition.” Girl, yes!!! This post is eloquent and oh so loving. A friend of mine, Kathleen and Lonna are my core 2. We share everything together. They have changed me by what they do in life with adoption, with being real, and with the Godly women they are. They inspire me to no end. I remember spending Valentine’s Day alone and Kat sent me flowers (because God loves us so). I remember running a marathon for the adoption of Lonna’s son and how we were all bonded despite it all. God moves through them to show me what I cannot see for myself in womanhood, sisterhood, marriage, and as ministry leaders. Those are two of the MANY MANY friends (bloggers, FB, etc) that inspire me to be a better woman in Christ. ❤

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    1. Carolina, what sweet friendships! Thank you for sharing a snippet of God’s loving arms through them here. It is truly amazing how many channels of love exist in the ecosystem of friendship. Something only He could create.
      Happy Thursday!!
      Megs

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    2. Congratulations, Carolina!!! Thank you for sharing with us how your core two friends have extended the love of Jesus in your life. You are the winner of a copy of The Gift of Friendship! Enjoy, my friend!
      Happy Thursday!!!
      Megs

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  7. I agree that your story is allowed to be told! We all learn, grow, and especially connect through our stories. On my desk I have 16 letters written to me-a surprise from 16 dinner guests who knew I had been going through a rough page so each wrote me words of encouragement. I have amazing friends who have stuck with me when I have very much messed up! I can’t enter your contest as a Canadian resident, but I will be on the look out for this book. Thank you!

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  8. I would like to reassure you: OF COURSE YOUR STORY IS ALLOWED TO BE TOLD! ☺️ don’t ever stop sharing it. Cause I know God has plans for this book of yours, that are marvelous. I love this review by the way. ❤️

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    1. Julia! Where would I be without sweet friends like you?! Thank you for encouraging me, and taking the time to read what God’s laid on my heart to share. It was a great book! So timely…love when He does that.
      Happy Wednesday, friend!!!
      Megs

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      1. Up a creek and without another heart to row and anchor the ship where you allow me onboard. Because that is friendship. (This is also a really strange analogy…) thank you for encouraging me to work on my review! Must process all these thoughts..this book came at a really needed time for me, too.
        Happy Wednesday, friend. ☺️

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