When to Tell a Friend How they Hurt You

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” (James 1:19-20)

Oh, how careful we must be when reacting to hurt. Quick to listen, and slow to speak. The most important thing we can do is choose to wait on our words and prayerfully seek God’s guidance.“This section of the letter,” the NIV Biblical Theology Study Bible explains of James 1:19-20 (above), “focuses on the power of God’s Word and the need for believers to respond to it in obedience.” The human anger James is speaking of is unchecked emotion. Righteous anger, taking a stand against injustice, has a place in God’s Kingdom.

When we scroll through social media or click through different newsreels, we rarely witness quick listening and slow speaking. Passive aggressiveness is posted for all to wonder if it applies to them, and the entitlement to speak our truth holds little regard for who it’s actually hurting. If someone disagrees with an agenda, they are ghosted. Before telling a friend they have hurt us, filter what happened through the following steps.

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March #jammed: Grace Revealed.

Day 65: Friends everywhere.

Someone with many so-called friends may end up friendless,
    but a true friend is closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24post-image-64

Being a blogger is a dream come true for me. There are friends to be made …everywhere. And link-ups are my favorite. A link-up is a group of bloggers that get together on a specific day to share what they wrote and read what others have written. It’s my favorite. Friends are my favorite.

I want to be friends with everyone. Today’s verse makes that sound like it’s not such a good idea.

It cautions us to choose friends carefully, but I don’t like to do that. I like to root for the person who seems like a bad influence because I believe in all of my heart that they have the potential to be a really good influence! And, who am I to judge anyway? I’m my own mess.

“If your heart and your mind are aligned in the direction of God, you don’t have to agonize to the point of paralysis over the decisions before you. We will steer where we stare.” Lysa Terkeurst, The Best Yes.

It’s OK to be friends with everyone, as long as we’re open to defining friendship on a person to person basis. One friendship doesn’t have to look like all others. Some friends talk everyday. Others see each other once a month. Still others get together sporadically but never lose ground. Our friendships are as individual as our walks with God. Each relationship is uniquely different because each person is uniquely crafted by God. No one combination of two people will ever operate the same as another.

So, as long as we’re genuine in the pursuit of friendship, we can embrace them all. And as for bad influences …it takes one to know one …so know what God says. Walk like Jesus walked. Follow Him alone.

jammed-tweet-blueFather, Praise You for friends! Thank You for commraderie and company in this life. We confess putting labels and confines how friendships should be and work, and pray that You bless our lives with the freedom to befriend the way Jesus did. Perfectly. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Do you love making new friends, or agonize over the thought of leaving your comfort zone? Get the conversation started by commenting below, and let’s encourage one another as we face life in 2017 armed with grace! 

#greatgrace17

Happy Friending,

Megs

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The Links (#jammed daily devo, day

March #jammed: Grace Revealed.

Day 65: Friends everywhere.

Someone with many so-called friends may end up friendless,
    but a true friend is closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24post-image-64

Being a blogger is a dream come true for me. There are friends to be made …everywhere. And link-ups are my favorite. A link-up is a group of bloggers that get together on a specific day to share what they wrote and read what others have written. It’s my favorite. Friends are my favorite.

I want to be friends with everyone. Today’s verse makes that sound like it’s not such a good idea.

It cautions us to choose friends carefully, but I don’t like to do that. I like to root for the person who seems like a bad influence because I believe in all of my heart that they have the potential to be a really good influence! And, who am I to judge anyway? I’m my own mess.

“If your heart and your mind are aligned in the direction of God, you don’t have to agonize to the point of paralysis over the decisions before you. We will steer where we stare.” Lysa Terkeurst, The Best Yes.

It’s OK to be friends with everyone, as long as we’re open to defining friendship on a person to person basis. One friendship doesn’t have to look like all others. Some friends talk everyday. Others see each other once a month. Still others get together sporadically but never lose ground. Our friendships are as individual as our walks with God. Each relationship is uniquely different because each person is uniquely crafted by God. No one combination of two people will ever operate the same as another.

So, as long as we’re genuine in the pursuit of friendship, we can embrace them all. And as for bad influences …it takes one to know one …so know what God says. Walk like Jesus walked. Follow Him alone.

jammed-tweet-blueFather, Praise You for friends! Thank You for commraderie and company in this life. We confess putting labels and confines how friendships should be and work, and pray that You bless our lives with the freedom to befriend the way Jesus did. Perfectly. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Do you love making new friends, or agonize over the thought of leaving your comfort zone? Get the conversation started by commenting below, and let’s encourage one another as we face life in 2017 armed with grace! 

#greatgrace17

Happy Friending,

Megs

Get the #jammed Daily Devo sent straight to your inbox each morning, by subscribing to Sunny&80.